Tuesday, May 21, 2019
Blue Ocean Strategy - A book review
Saturday, February 09, 2019
How I met my wife ??
I
always wanted to write about how I met my wife to be though it was
not a Love story, it ended up being one... This was way back when
I was in Jersey city and as the Indian custom goes, my parents
were looking out for a “girl” for me. They happen to get a match
through the “horoscope” process. I’m sure the horoscope process would
be an interesting read but mine was “horror “ scope of filters.
First
the horoscope , then the region , the family , the education
etc.. oh my God what not! I did tell my parents that I’d like to see and talk
to the girl before I decide. They were OK. So it was to be “Video-webcam
meeting... the good old yahoo messenger days”.
I was in Jersey and she was in Chennai then. We
did schedule a time , however for some reason she could not make it. We
did reschedule again, and again she did not make it. I did wonder why... I
just wrote her an email asking if she was serious about this and if she was not
to just let me know. Clicked send! No response... I figured out may be it
was in the email I sent.
As luck would have had it , I did not see further traction on the proposals. I decided to go to India and test my luck. My dad called her parents and they said “No, they were working on something else”. The custom is then to return the photograph and part ways .My parents decided to go all guns as they thought I would run away to the US—the country that I loved—without getting married. They thought it was their responsibility to see me married off. So they advertised in the newspapers with a P.O.box. They went online when the .com portals just started, they also registered in various marriage bureaus. As luck would had it—many proposals, only 10 horoscope matches, 5 matches with region and family, 2 for a working professional... and then just 1... It was her. I still did not meet any girl for marriage yet. My parents called her parents again after the newspaper response.
Her parents replied back mentioning
“something else has come up knowing that it was me”. Nothing worked out
for a year, I still did not meet anyone in person for marriage. I
finally decided to get back to US and my visa interview was
scheduled. It’s so happened that one of my school friend’s parents stopped
by to check on me as to when I would leave to the US as they had a parcel for
their son. I did tell the uncle that my visa interview is just scheduled.
He made a comment “All you guys need is to be more responsible, you leave
your parents and you all go to the US and then find someone there and
never come back”. To which I replied “I’m ready to get married. Do you have a
girl in mind?” Immediately he mentioned there was someone he knew that was
looking for a boy.
This could be just a coincidence, but it
happened to be her. She was still in Chennai and I was in Bangalore and we
never met. Since the visa stamping was in Chennai, the uncle suggested
that he would talk to her parents and we could possibly meet with no
obligations. Her parents agreed I flew to Chennai, we met at Barista
Coffee and we just connected and decided—yes,
we will be. The rest is history, marriages are made in heaven...
The only girl I met in person for marriage I did marry finally.
-published for newsletter in Feb 2019